Blood Against Blood

All of America can agree: This has been a toxic election season. With the Trump victory, the toxicity has only increased. To say things are tense in the nation right now is the understatement of a lifetime. We’ve been divided before. We’ve been upset over elections before. We’ve even seen victory before, but whether one is celebrating the victory or mourning the defeat, I don’t know if anyone is actually happy. The angry are angrier. The hateful are more hateful. Those who believe in progress and equality are only holding onto their ideals tighter, and those who believe we have been on the wrong track for too long have become violent and/or defensive in their celebration and will be disappointed by Trump’s presidency. 

​None of this is all too surprising. Even if Trump had lost, his campaign polluted the psycho-sphere of the nation. It would have taken decades to get over Trump. Now that he has won, it will take lifetimes. Our children will live in recovery from our disaster. In the meantime, the big question everyone on both sides is asking is how do we all live together now? Our political climate (and lets face it, Trump) has made it nearly impossible to see the other side. The reason for this is that this election was made into a moral one. A clear wrong and right were presented and, in my view now and in history’s later, the wrong decision was made. The victory of Donald Trump was a moral defeat. We’re already seeing this as true. Yet we still have to live and work together. Specifically, we all have to sit around the table and eat together as families on this Thanksgiving Day.

​So how do we do it? I don’t have the answer. I’m asking. What I’m expecting is tension at best and severed ties at worst. Families torn apart. Brother against brother, sister against sister, father against son, mother against daughter, blood against blood. I’m personally torn as to which of the two possibilities is preferable.

What They Mean by ‘Democratic Elite’

Every day I see a new article about the elite. In the daze of a Republican victory earlier this month, journalists are wondering where the Democratic party went wrong, how they could have done better, and what they plan on doing for the future of the party. They’ve used the word post-mortem, and they’ve concluded that there is a gap between everyday working class white men and the ‘Democratic elite.’ I’ve read most of these articles and I can’t tell you what the hell that means.

Of course, they are talking about Hillary Clinton. Among the complaints about her throughout the election were notions that she seemed out of touch or disconnected from the rest of the country. They blamed her thirty years of experience and accumulated wealth for her becoming ‘one of them’ rather than ‘one of us.’ 

I will never understand how billionaire real estate mogul Donald Trump seemed like a more relatable candidate to some, but let me dispel the Democratic elite myth, which is easy to do. In one of the Russia-powered leaks during the campaign, Clinton said that she admired President Lincoln’s notion of a public and private political persona. She got a lot of heat for that statement, but I actually kind of like it, because in the end it isn’t about what the candidate says, or even what the candidate believes. It only matters what the candidate does, and time and time again, Clinton proved to be a candidate for the people through legislation. Yes, she got money from banks and billionaires, but every one of her positions are rooted in the best interests of the very people who claimed she was too stuck up and ‘elite’ to understand them. Clinton would have worked tirelessly, as she has her entire life, for all American people. Trump will never lift a finger for any of us. 

So when people ask where the Democrats go from here or what they need to change, it’s this: not a damn thing. Keep going. The people have spoken- Clinton won the election. The Democrats should do nothing differently because the problem lies not with them, but with the other side. We’ll win elections in the future only if we stay on track and continue to fight for what is right. 

International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women

There are three names and stories I have memorized.

(1) Deborah Gardner.

​1976- Gardner was a teacher volunteering in Tonga through the Peace Corps. A fellow volunteer named Dennis Priven had become infatuated with her. He pursued her endlessly. Eventually, Gardner agreed to a date, but cut it short. She did not feel the same way, and he was making her uncomfortable. On October 14, Priven murdered Gardner by stabbing her twenty-two times. Priven was arrested in Tonga but released to the United States, where he was able to walk away a free man. The Peace Corps has done their best to bury Deborah’s story. She was twenty-three years old.

​(2) Ashley Billasano

​2011- Billasano took to Twitter Tuesday, November 7, and detailed her experience being regularly raped by her father, who had also been selling her to other men since she was fourteen. She had told police and CPS about the abuse but after investigation, they found no evidence to press charges. Billasando tweeted 144 times over six hours. When she finished her story, she committed suicide. Police urged reporters not to tell Ashley’s story for fear of copycats. She was eighteen.

​(3) Hillary Adams

​2004- Adams set up a camera on her desk. She was able to record her father, Judge William Adams, beating Hillary for over eight minutes. Hillary said this abuse was regular and that she had tried to tell people about her father but all attempts led nowhere. Seven years later, Adams posted the video online. It got over 8 million views, and her father was fined and suspended for one year. In 2014, he lost re-election. 

There are many more stories and many more names, too many to list here, too many to know, too damn many. One in three women will be sexually and/or physically abused in their lifetime. One in three. Think of three women you know. Statistically, one of them has been abused. It’s likely that more than one of them have. It’s likely that you have. Women face violence from strangers and from people who they love and who claim to love them every day. Sexism and misogyny are real and their roots run deep. Do not be okay with this.

Say Enough.

International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women Site: un.org/en/events/endviolenceday

The National Domestic Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Stop Violence Against Women: stopvaw.org

Trump’s America

These are the facts:
(1) Donald Trump, a man with no experience in government, who never served in
the armed forces, who is, by business standards, a poor business man, who profits from
the failings of his businesses, who doesn’t pay his employees, who doesn’t pay his taxes,
who brags about getting away with sexual assault because of his fame, who brags about
walking in on teenage girls’ changing in dressing rooms, who has expressed interest in his
daughter’s body, who has been accused of rape and sexual assault a number of times, who
said that women who have had abortions must be punished, who bragged about the size
of his penis in a presidential debate, who ran the nastiest campaign in modern history,
who ran his campaign on promises of jailing his opponent, mass deportation of Mexican
immigrants, a literal wall on the Mexican/American border, and a ban on Muslims
entering the country, who encouraged his supporters to assassinate his opponent, who
surrounds himself with white nationalists, who quotes white nationalists, who equates
African-Americans with crime, who got into politics by demanding the first African-
American president prove he was not born in Africa, who champions stop-and-frisk, who
believes Syrian refugees should not be accepted into the country, who publicly attacked a
five-star family and a former Miss America contestant, who makes fun of disabled
people, who does not believe in climate change, who has threatened members of the press
and others who speak out against him, who has found a mentor and role model in
Vladimir Putin, has been elected president of the United States of America.
(2) Hillary Clinton, civil rights lawyer, First Lady of the United States of
America, Senator of New York, Secretary of State of the United States of America, lost
the electoral vote, but won the popular vote by over 2 million votes and counting.
(3) More than half of the country is appalled by the results of the election. They
are terrified, angry, heartbroken, and disillusioned.
(4) Protests have broken out all over the country and some of them have become
violent.
(5) In Brooklyn, a male Trump supporter punched a woman in the face for
expressing her disappointment in the results.
(6) A cowardly bigot spray-painted swastikas and ‘Go Trump’ on the memorial of
the late Beastie Boy, Adam Yauch.
And so on and so forth.
Most of us are feeling hopeless. We don’t know what to do and we don’t know if
there is anything we can do that could make a real difference. I know that I have
personally fallen into straight despair more than once since the election. I took it as a
national declaration of indifference at best. At worst, it was the word ‘No.’ It was a
statement against equality and progress. It was an embrace of nihilism. I accept the truth
that not everyone who voted for Mr. Trump is racist, misogynistic, anti-Semitic, or
xenophobic. However, everyone who voted for Trump, by voting for him, voted in
support of racism, misogyny, anti-Semitism, and xenophobia, because Trump is racist,
misogynistic, anti-Semitic, and xenophobic. Still, even those who voted for him and supported him will be abandoned by him, because there is one thing Trump is not, and that is a patriot.
A patriot loves America. A patriot gives their life for their country, works tirelessly on behalf of their country, and embraces the ideas and ideals that their country was founded upon. A patriot remembers that with the exception of Native Americans, not a one of us belong here, that we are all refugees of other countries, other cultures, other ways of life, and other religions, that we have been collectively thrown into the melting pot, our colors mixing, our cultures clashing then blending together, our religions learning from each other, and our loyal oppositions working with us towards a common good, which is a safe and prosperous country for every American. A patriot sees Lady Liberty as the ultimate American symbol, a guiding light for our fellow cast aways, looking for life, liberty and happiness, who believes in one nation, one people, in acceptance, shelter from storms, brother and sisterhood, in a life of individual and communal harmony. A patriot knows that even when our politicians and citizens do not adhere to these ideals that they live on, that they still matter, that they still mean something, and that they are the ultimate goal we are forever working towards.
Trump is no patriot. He says he loves America, but what he means is that he loves a very specific part of America, an America for him and no one else. He means he loves himself. He wants an America that works for him at the expense of all others. He excludes all of us, even those who supported and voted for him, but we are not going anywhere. I’ve wondered many times since November 9 where we as a nation can go from here. There is only one way to go: Up.
So for those of you, like me, who don’t know what to do, this is it: we keep doing what we do. We make ourselves heard. We keep an eye on the administration. We call and write our representatives. We support and donate to organizations like the ACLU and Planned Parenthood (aclu.org and plannedparenthood.org) who are on the frontlines of our battles. We make demands. We vote. We keep away from apathy and nihilism. We live our lives to the fullest. We stand together. We protect each other. We unite. We remind Mr. Trump that his America is not all of America. We remind him that we are America, and that he is president of all of us, and if he doesn’t listen, we impeach him or kick him out in 2020.
Here is the beginning of a list of demands, in no order, equally important and equally in jeopardy:
1. Do not repeal our health care
2. Keep Roe v. Wade
3. Keep Marriage Equality
4. Close the gender pay gap
5. Keep the Iran Deal
6. Do not build the wall
7. Accept Syrian refugees
8. Do not go backwards on climate change
9. Do not build the pipeline
10. Do not alienate us from our allies
11. Do not be a puppet to Putin
12. Do not stop and frisk us
13. Do not register us by our religion
14. Instate universal background checks
15. Denounce the Klan and white nationalism
16. Apologize
Keep it coming. Keep living. Keep loving. Keep fighting.
Ohio Representatives:
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    Steve Stivers- 202-225-2015
    Jim Renacci- 202-225-3876